Sep 3, 2024
“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” – Mahatma Gandhi
We find what we need in the service of others
Ever felt out of sorts and lost in what to do next? Maybe you’re stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, and unsure about the next right thing. Perhaps you’re feeling stuck in the past regarding what was and wasn’t done or should or shouldn’t have happened. You’re in fear of moving forward because the uncertainty seems to involve a significant risk. Additionally, while you’re in some adversity and hardship, you’re remembering the time or two you fell short.
The Power of Serving Others
Given these challenges, my advice to leaders, team members, mentees, cohorts, and friends, when they are in the midst of any of these mental, physical, emotional, or spiritual perspectives, is to use this default behavior…serve and help someone else. Doing so for nothing in return, and for no other reason than a genuine desire to put someone else’s needs ahead of your own, to simply serve others. Nothing will ever be guaranteed, except maybe taking the focus off ourselves and placing it on someone else. A self-less posture where we get what we give away. In fact, I love what Gandhi said, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
Self-Centeredness vs. Service
We all have an ego, and with that comes degrees of self-centeredness, self-will, self-concern, and overall selfishness. It is not that hard to be driven by self-seeking motives. It’s a pretty natural drive. For some, it can be excessive to the point that what they need supersedes any aspect of the needs of others. For example, how many of you can immediately think of “that manager” whose only concern was how everything needed to benefit them? Typically followed by how that would be best achieved regardless of who got in the way or whoever was obliged to deliver.
Contrasting Leadership Styles
Consider “that one leader” who made us the focus and center of their attention. Most, if not all, of their energy, effort, and enthusiasm were focused squarely on us – on how we win, succeed, move forward, grow, and come out ahead. How do the two differ? Examining the behaviors, what stands out in each approach?
What does service look like?
It starts first with a mindset, not just a heart for serving someone else. It’s a wholehearted belief that it matters, followed by a full-fledged intentionality to act. Some of the considerations may be an awareness of others, like looking for specific moments in the day to check in with others to see how they’re doing and ask if they need anything. It’s actively seeking ways and means to help people do what they do. It’s the cultivation of an others-first mentality.
Thinking it is one thing, doing it is another. The second aspect represents the hands and feet, or the action of living it out. Considerations for this can be seeing someone who needs some help, support, or a specific “helping hand” and then providing it. It’s delivering whatever is required or requested. I found it is best served without a need for reciprocity or “this for that” reward or validation. Serving is simply the right thing to do, and that’s enough.
I have also found importance and purpose in the third part, which is the follow-up. To check back in and see how it’s going. This demonstrates true and authentic concern, dedication, and even empathy. To be fair, not all situations flow into a follow up opportunity. Sometimes, it was a moment that just happened. I contend that if you are able and it makes sense, re-engage the other person and see how things worked out. Show them that the encouragement and support were genuine by celebrating what they did and how they did it.
Where do I apply it?
Two professional perspectives immediately come to mind. One is leadership, specifically servant leadership, where a leader prioritizes the growth, development, well-being, and empowerment of the team they represent. It is a commitment and stewardship of putting others first and ensuring the needs of others, as best captured in the book title by Simon Sinek, Leaders Eat Last. Ultimately, it is a belief that the success of the leader is intrinsically tied to the success of those who they lead, so put them first.
Another is serving one another within a team dynamic. Call it peer-to-peer or cohort service. This represents a side-by-side mentality, where teams are not only in “this” together but are naturally better together when they serve one another. They provide aid, collaboration, and encouragement…from one team member to another where all within the group can be and are typically unified in a mission to do something specific. Like-minded people are unified in purpose and help one another get it done.
Every day allows us to focus on and give of ourselves for the benefit of someone else. These include things like opening the door, lending a helping hand, or donating time and treasure to another person, family, or community. Whether it’s the ear that listens, a shoulder to cry on, or arms that can carry a load, we have a choice in how we are present in the lives of the people around us. So, which choices will you make today?
Muhammad Ali said it best…” Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.”
I challenge you in how you see and experience service in answering the questions below.
Questions to take away and consider:
- In what way do you define service or serving others?
- Consider How is service or serving others present in your professional and personal life?
- What are some ways you have seen others being served?
- Why would someone not have a mindset for service or to serve the people around them?
- Reflect on the real motives you have when serving others?
- How would you describe the best kind of service?
- What is a way you can serve someone else today?
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Aug 1, 2024
Growth is an Equation
We have explored that growth is something we believe to be important and manifests out of experience. It can come unexpectedly and in moments where we lack control. Growth can also be a deliberate process, even to the extent that it becomes an equation.
Mass + Willingness + Action + Follow Up = Growth
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” – Michael Jordan
For all intents and purposes, on any given day, we see things occur and hear things said. In the moment between occurrence and response, we consider our choices. We contemplate some change; call it a thought. Maybe just a feeling that something needs to change, start, stop, or improve. Then, we engage in a series of responses.
For context, let’s say, I was perusing my new hire orientation documentation as I began my job at Russell Cellular. I read the RC Brand Foundation of “Care for Every Person”, and I realized, “That’s me. That’s one of my values. I relate to that type of expression.” That particular connection stimulates how I see my job as having a specific purpose. I begin thinking about my daily tasks, to-do lists, and aspects of my day where I interact with others. An idea forms in my mind as to how I might live this out.
Mass
The first of these is crafting the idea into something doable. It originates as an amorphous or abstract consideration – lacking shape, focus, or structure. How can I actually “care” for every person? Maybe, caring for every person is not just an outlook but more a certain behavior I can bring into my day. I begin to add a personal responsibility to be caring within my job responsibility. Then, with a deeper consideration, the how becomes more concrete with clarity, form, and meaning. Maybe then, it’s finding something specific to appreciate in every situation and with every person and acknowledging it and them. That’s mass.
Willingness
Willingness is a big tenet for me. It is part of my belief in the WHO factor; to authentically be ‘who’ you are…willing, honest, and open. The challenge is we can say we’re willing – wholeheartedly believing in something or that something needs to change – and let it only be something we say to ourselves and others. This is about committing. So, if “care for every person” is calling out specific things I appreciate, I need to commit to doing this every time I can in all possible interactions like face-to-face chats, calls, meetings, IMs, and emails! Willingness is only as good as the action that follows.
Action
A commitment must become action. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, a German writer and philosophical thought leader from the late 18th century, is known for saying, “Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.” Or what about from the Book of James, “Faith without works is dead”? The point is, that growth comes in the engagement of behavior. Specifically, when we’re with a team member or customer, caring for them. Serving them and appreciating them in real-time. Thinking becomes doing, and doing becomes consistent, ongoing behavior. It becomes sticky.
Follow Up
Nothing says “sticky behavior” more than doing what we planned to do, assessing and reflecting on the outcome, ‘tweaking’ if needed, and then doing it over and over again. I remember years ago finding out that some seventy percent of all initiatives fail or fall short of being fully realized because of poor or lack of follow-up and follow-through. While I am uncertain whether that number has changed, I am still certain it tops the list. Therefore, if caring for every person is important…if it truly matters…then even with varying degrees of success and failure, we keep doing it. We keep caring and keep growing.
To be fair, this equation is a natural, organic requirement for growth. I believe if we lack in any one of these elements…if we ignore one or more or apply half-measures…our growth may very well lack in desired impact, influence, and outcome. As John Maxwell summed up, “Change is inevitable, Growth is optional.” So, choose growth and see what happens next.
How you define growth may very well be found in the answers below.
Questions to take away and consider:
- How do you intentionally create growth in your professional and personal life?
- What things do you ensure are in place for effective growth?
- What things keep you or have kept you from growing forward?
- If you were to schedule some type of consistent growth activity, what would it be, why would it be, and when or how often would it be?
- Name a thing or two you identify as “behavior(s) that stuck” in your growth journey. And why?
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Jul 1, 2024
I remember one of my first days. Picture it: my debut as a management consultant in the heart of Washington, DC. The room buzzed with anticipation as fifty-plus industry leaders gathered on the first day of the two-day management development workshop. I was part of a two-consultant facilitation team, a senior consultant and newbie consultant. I was the latter and tasked to deliver the easiest chapter. It was a chapter on discipline. I stepped up front in the hotel conference room; suit pressed, support team in the back, notes and projector ready, all eyes of the audience on me.
I froze.
What seemed like an eternity was only about 15 seconds. All the practicing and getting ready seemed to vanish in an instant. I remember the senior consultant’s face. He wasn’t mad or upset. He just smiled and nodded. I quickly glanced away and caught a woman’s face at the front, and she seemed to signal with her expression, “You’ve got this.” And then, my words kicked in – slowly and awkwardly. As the next 15 seconds passed, I hit my stride.
That began my growth journey as a sales, management and leadership consultant. In a way, I learned as much as all the owners, managers and leaders in that one 30-minute chapter review. Since then, I have delivered thousands of workshops and speeches. One constant thread in all of them, I kept learning and I keep growing.
“To me, a leader is someone who holds her- or himself accountable for finding potential in people and processes.” – Brene Brown
Unveiling Growth: The Power of Intentional Growth
In our journey through both professional and personal realms, I’ve come to realize that intentional learning is akin to the air we breathe—essential for our growth and development. To constantly and consistently seek understanding through a variety of ongoing sources. To develop oneself in some type of growth routine. Maybe it’s a daily, weekly or monthly commitment to always be learning something. Maybe it’s plugging into resources like books, videos, websites, seminars, classes, etc. Striving to learn on purpose, for purpose.
Embracing Uncertainty: Moments of Intentional Learning
I have also found that growth can come out of very unexpected places. Maybe we didn’t plan for a thing to happen; it does, and we improvise and do the best we can. Take something as unforeseen as COVID. That season not only challenged the status quo and “normal” ways to do things, it also provoked adaptation and the “new normal” – writing new proverbial chapters on what to do as we go. I believe we can inevitably learn a great deal about who we are and who we are becoming in seasons of uncertainty, adversity and desperation. Let’s be real, there are some things that can only learned in disruption and hardship.
Regardless of the when or how in our inflection point, change is inevitable. Learning is our choice. And owning that choice becomes a stimulant for growth.
Navigating Change: Lessons in Intentional Growth
- Firstly, from day one to now, what have you learned about yourself?
- Secondly, what specific moments have contributed to your growth?
- Moreover, what have your successes and failures taught you?
- Additionally, what makes up your ongoing development routine?
- And finally, if you have a team, and I asked them to describe your mindset about growth, what would they say?
So, as you go through your own journey, consider the milestones that have shaped you, the lessons learned from both success and failure. While change may be inevitable, it is our commitment to learning that propels us forward on the path of continuous improvement.
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Jun 10, 2024
Phones have come a long way in the last decade. Along with that, more notifications fill the air. It can feel like everyone is trying to get our attention. However, it is nice to be able to step away from all the notifications and take a mental break. That is where having a silent phone can come into play, mainly focusing on the iPhone 15.
Silent Features
Having a phone constantly make noise is not only a bother to you, but it can disturb those around you. It may not necessarily be your phone begging for your attention, but the apps you use all of the time. Social apps, games, and more need you to be using them. Do they not understand that you need a break once in a while, or in some cases, all the time? With the iPhone’s silent feature, you can easily turn off all of the unnecessary noises. Just the click of a button and you are noise free. However, there are different steps you can take to completely achieve peace and quiet.
Notifications No More
How many apps are on your phone? With all of those apps, come endless notifications. However, a quick trip to the notification settings can solve this. It may seem like a lot of work, but going through each individual app and setting up notification preferences will save you in the long run. Only allowing apps like iMessage, Facetime, Phone App, and Reminders to send you alerts. Limiting notifications to these 4 apps will allow you to live an undisturbed lifestyle. Every time you open your phone up to unlock it, you will not have to see alerts about how someone updated their timeline on Facebook.
Silent Alerts
Say you like the idea of turning off all your notifications, but maybe that is not applicable to your lifestyle. You need to have noises for things like calls or texts. Activating the vibration feature might help you out. It may not be easily found at first, but under sounds, checking “None” will activate the vibration notification and you can change the vibration type under haptics. You can turn it on “Quick”, so it is just a short vibration to let you know someone sent a text. Of course, everyone’s preferences are different so select the feature best for you.
Please Do Not Disturb
We have all heard something similar to, turning off electronics one hour before bed helps us sleep better. With the iPhone’s “Focus” feature, we can achieve this in a different way. Getting rid of unwanted notifications during portions of the day. Within this feature you can set up different times of the day whether it be for work or sleep, to not be disturbed. In addition, it can be customized in a way to only allow certain people to be able to contact you. Like certain family or friends that might need to contact you in case of an emergency. However, strategically enabling your “Focus” time will help you stay focused on the people around you, the work you are doing, or winding down for the day.
Overall, notifications can affect each of us in different ways. Maybe, you do not know how they are affecting you until they are gone. Give the Silent Phone Test a trial run and see how it treats you. Or if you are interested in learning more phone tips, visit our blog. In addition, if you do not already have an iPhone and wish to take advantage of these features, visit one of our locations and see what phone and plan works best for you!
Jun 3, 2024
A journey implies there are options as to what path to take. I have not found one formula to navigate growth that fits all situations. It depends on the context of the situation, and always involves making a choice. Moreover, with all the uncertainty that comes with it, we need to adapt as we grow forth.
The destination implies something different; that there is only one destination. Which would indicate only one way to get there. Being fixated on one destination can hinder our creativity and limit what can be achieved.
“Be patient with yourself. You are growing stronger every day. The weight of the world will become lighter . . . and you will begin to shine brighter. Don’t give up.” —Robert Tew
Navigating Growth’s Diverse Journey
To navigate growth is a challenge. The challenge is when we are given a goal or objective, like “To provide the best wireless experience to every customer, every time”, or “Care for every person”, or “Be the best version of yourself”; how do we respond? Are we fixated on the outcome or are we open to the possibilities in the moment?
Let us be real, each new day is a new opportunity to achieve. I contend no one wakes up wanting to fail. For most of us, we start our day with varying degrees of hope, optimism and a desire to do the best we can. We have initiatives to own, and problems to solve. Even with clarity within our organization, there are no guarantees of the outcome. We win some, make mistakes, learn lessons, adjust, and still keep trying. Growth, like life, will always have varying degrees of success and failure. We figure it out as we go, and each moment is the next step in our journey.
Insights Gained from Navigating Growth
If we believe only in the destination, it can limit our overall experience. We may rigidly follow one path with blinders on and miss all the little moments along the way. In a state of impatience when things are not going our way, we may find ourselves putting a square peg into a round hole. All of this makes up what is known as a fixed mindset.
On the other hand, when we understand that journeys can be flexible, we might encounter new experiences, learn valuable lessons, or even surpass expectations. Having an open mindset expands our opportunities, deepens our understanding, and broadens our possibilities. We may even build confidence by becoming adaptable as we grow forward. This is known as a growth mindset.
When you and I stand at the crossroads, we will think about our choice. Will we strain to see as far as we can, imaging the destination, and the way to get there? Or will we look down at our feet, and take a step forward, curious and excited about a new journey to take?
Embracing the Fluidity of Growth
Questions to take away and consider:
- Firstly, how do you navigate growth in your professional and personal life?
- Secondly, does growth happen to you, or do you embrace and engage in the opportunities to grow?
- Additionally, do you see growth as an outcome or a never-ending experience of ‘decide-do-learn-keep doing-keep learning’?
- Ultimately, how do you measure growth?
In the realm of growth, embracing the journey over fixating on the destination fosters a mindset of exploration, adaptation, and continual learning, revealing not just what we achieve, but who we become along the way. Want to learn more perspectives about growth and leadership? Visit our podcast or visit one of our locations.
Dec 1, 2023
This time of year, while cheerful, can also bring its share of stress and challenges. Firstly, start the path to a healthier mind, with easy tips to help ease the holiday season. Additionally, take a journey toward a more mindful holiday experience. Lastly, as the new year approaches, prioritize mental health and create lasting memories. As the holiday season unfolds, embrace these simple tips for better mental wellness while paving the way for a more joy-filled experience.
Heart, Soul, Body, and Mental Wellness
In this busy time, things happen fast. It can be both stressful and joyful. So, it is important to take care of our mental wellness and family connections. This time of year is perfect for focusing on our heart, soul, body, and mind.
When thinking of the song ‘It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year’ by Andy Williams, it is not just about Christmas—it is a feeling that starts when we gather for Thanksgiving. That time from Thanksgiving to Christmas day always has something special about it.
The first thing to know about this time of year is that it is not a surprise. We start planning our own lives, like Thanksgiving dinner, when kids are out of school, parties, religious holidays, travel, and family gatherings. When we add all this to our everyday work, it can get stressful. So, be ready for what’s coming. Do we have a plan, or are we figuring it out as we go?
In this busy time of year, for both work and personal lives, it is important to find what makes us stressed. Notice when stress and anxiety start, whether it is from work, family, or holiday pressure. Once we know what triggers these feelings, it is crucial to strengthen our connections with friends and family. Identify the triggers, then practice mindfulness, take breaks, meditate, and go for walks to manage mental wellness.
Destigmatizing Mental Wellness
Another thing to think about is breaking the stigma around mental wellness. We see a doctor when we are not well and go to the dentist for a check-up each year. However, when was the last take time our emotional and mental well-being was checked on?
As the holidays close in, approach it with a mindful view. Understanding how it affects mental wellness and family bonds can make the season happier. Make it a time of joy, connection, and well-being. Let’s give thanks, spread joy, and care about each other’s well-being too.
Creating a Supportive RC Family
As an RC Family, we all need to sensitive to this time of year. Where we live out our RC Brand Foundation of “Care for Every Person.”. It is not just a company goal, it is something we can do any time of year; maybe, at the time when we need it the most.
How will you embrace mental wellness this time of year? The choice is yours.
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